In what might be one of the most alarming posts in r/AmItheA**hole history, a pregnant woman posting under the name u/morbidmommy11, a woman described a situation that would make a really great movie. Unfortunately, it makes a terrifying real-life situation.
Her story was removed by moderators on the subreddit but was captured by Twitter @AITA_reddit. Basically, mommy says she is wondering if she’s a jerk for banning her husband and father-in-law from the delivery room after months of them acting very strangely and causing them an enormous amount of stress.
According to her, her husband’s mother died during childbirth. That would naturally make any potential parent nervous, but she says that both her husband and FIL are acting like her death isn’t only possible, it’s inevitable.
They’re making her buy a life insurance plan, film videos for the future child, and pack up and store all of her belongings after sorting through them, so the husband won’t have to…when she’s gone. She also says there’s absolutely no reason for the pregnancy to go badly! She’s fine!
The OP has said that she has told how stressful this behavior is making her to both of them, but has been ignored.
“When I tell my husband this, he calls me paranoid, but I feel like my FIL WANTS me to die; his whole life identity for the past 35 years has been ‘amazing single dad’ (never dated or had close friends or even hobbies really) and it seems like he’s looking forward to being able to guide my husband through what he went through.”
Oh my god. Get out, OP.
The OP says her husband has been claiming he’s going to therapy, but she doesn’t believe him, because his behavior hasn’t improved at all and he gets upset whenever she asks about it. She has been wondering if she went too far with the banning, but in another comment, she shared how strange her FIL has been about allowing her to make her own medical decisions:
Like I said I’ve always felt like he resented me a little for “taking” my husband from him but we still got on really well, I’ve been completely unprepared for this because the way he treats me now is just…unimaginably cold and weird and controlling. He was never like this before I got pregnant. When we got into it about the epidural/laughing gas he told me that the “only important part of delivery is a healthy baby”, that medical intervention for the mother is inherently bad for the baby, and when I said “my comfort is an important aspect of the birth” he told me “your comfort in this process is irrelevant”. So….yeah. We’re not coming back from that. Our relationship is completely done.
Another commenter on Twitter found several other alarming responses from OP on the original Reddit post:
The responses on Twitter urged OP to get out of what seems like a scary situation.
He was certainly gonna try. No halfway decent medical staff would have listened to him.— Am I the Asshole? (@AITA_reddit) January 28, 2020
yeah the fact that the FIL is being over-controlling about *her* medical decisions is giving me wild bad vibes about what could have went down when the hubs was born.— JJ [xe/xem/xyr or alt she & he] (@venusbetch) January 28, 2020
I understand they have PTSD.— Supernova Girl ✨ (@xstar_girl) January 28, 2020
But this is above and beyond. Packing up her pre-pregnancy clothes, having her record videos to show the kid for after she’s gone, etc. It’s too much. It’s just too much!
And Reddit commenters are basically telling her to get a divorce and call the police because this is becoming dangerous:
Everyone is hoping that the OP takes these warnings seriously, and it sounds like she’s at her limit for her husband’s weird behavior.
She wrote, “It’s like he’s been replaced by a different man. I don’t know what to do anymore. He’s constantly staring at me wistfully and reminding me of good times in our relationship, telling me he will (not would!) be lost without me…his mere presence drives up my heart rate at this point, and I’m still over a month out.”
If this is all real, let’s hope morbid mommy is soon-divorced mommy.