If you want to find out the sex of your baby, it’s a really exciting day when you get that information! You don’t need to throw a party or set off fireworks — sometimes it’s just nice to share the news with your partner. But what if you accidentally spill the beans before they want to hear it?
One Redditor apparently made a grave mistake when she read the results of her baby’s bloodwork, including the baby’s sex, before her husband got home. Armed with the information, she excitedly shared the news. But the OP’s husband didn’t want to be told, and he was angry the OP didn’t wait for them to look together. That’s understandable. But what happens next is not.
“I got the results of my NIPT bloodwork today and we both agreed with the doctor at the time that we would like to know the gender of the baby. The doctor called me while my husband was away and said that the results looked good and she would email me the results shortly after. The email landed and I looked through the results in excitement and saw that we were having a boy.”
“When my husband got back from work, I greeted him at the door and told him the good news. He was unhappy that I spoiled the surprise for him, and that I robbed him of the moment. He wanted us to go through the results together, which he DID NOT tell me. I apologized and said I was just excited to know that our baby is healthy, and that we can still go look at the results together.”
“He said there was no point, the moment was gone and that I never ‘think’ when it comes to situations like this. He proceeded to call me inconsiderate and selfish. I apologized again, saying that I didn’t mean to hurt his feelings or ruin the surprise, I just thought he’d be happy knowing our baby is healthy and happy, no matter the gender.”
“The last thing he said to me was that I’m now responsible for buying all the baby’s things because I spoiled the surprise for him. It’s been 3 hours and he hasn’t said a word to me. I feel so guilty that I might have robbed him of a chance to celebrate, but at the same time…is this really the thing to be upset about??? AITA? Please be honest.”
It’s fine to be disappointed, but this sounds so punitive. Redditors had some good advice.