Some business owners really say that they try to treat their business like a “family,” and yet whenever an employee faces a hardship, they flip and tell the person to keep their personal life separated. That seems to be the case with this one Redditor’s coworker, who gave them permission to share her previous employer’s email on the Anti-Work subreddit.
For context, user u/Plenty-Artichoke7924 said, “she had just found out that her boyfriend of 4+ years had been cheating on her. she started looking for another job immediately after reading this.”
“Hi!” the email started. “I wanted to send this before you came in so you could absorb it.”
“He was a part of your life but he is NOT all of your life. We need you here and present at the bakery. That is another part of your life, and hopefully a nice comfortable happy part,” the boss continued. “I am going to ask that you fake it until you make it. We gave you a week, but now we need to ask that you don’t bring that into the bakery when you are working. You know we are in a small space and it gets oppressive for someone to be moping around. I honestly would not have let some continue this long, but I know how much you are hurting.”
Sure, the boss may know, but they clearly didn’t care, as they went on to say, “Keep work work and personal personal. You know we are a bit woo woo here and the thought of all that sadness going into cakes isn’t something we want.”
Right, so customers not feeling the worker’s heartbreak and sadness baked into their cakes was more important than the worker’s wellbeing. At least she knew her boss’s priorities.
“Deb and I support you through this process, you can talk to us…but we need you back with us,” the boss said while being completely unsupportive of their employee. “I hope this is something that you can do. I heartily recommend some therapy to help you [through] things. You WILL be okay, you will survive, but it is unhealthy to embrace that helplessness and that he ruined everything. He does not have the power to do that. You are in charge of your life!!”
They added, “We adore you, and we want you HERE with us making silly faces and inappropriate comments.”
The boss ended the email with a cheery, “See you tomorrow!!”
The people of Reddit certainly weren’t surprised by the boss’s faux support of their employee and were quick to mock their email.