Everyone has body image issues, something that may surprise folks to hear. What’s not okay is to project your own insecurities on someone else and cause them harm in the process. Baldness is genetic in Redditor u/Immediate-Shape-6968’s family, and he did something about it and got a hair transplant, but his brother did something unconscionable, leading him to ask, “AITA for […] calling the cops on my brother and ruining his wedding?”
“My [brother] is having a wedding in 2 and a half weeks later. I was apart of the groomsmen. I’ve known his bride for a while and we are family friends. I’m not married yet but I’m dating my boyfriend. Before quarantine I had done a hair transplant. My hair looks great now and my family doesn’t know,” he wrote. “However my brother is fully shaven and decided to embrace it. The conversation last night at my apartment shifted to hair. I have hair passing my shoulders. And decent looks. My brother thought I would outshine him without a haircut. I said no because I’ve been growing it since quarantine. He said it was either that or no attendance from me. I offered to wear a hat but he didn’t wanna hear it. I thought he’d cool off and called it a night.”
“The next morning he left and as I was showering I used my shampoo. It smelled horrible and I rinsed it off immediately. Clumps of my hair started to fall out and I was left with thin half bald hair. It was irritating and my scalp was red. I yelled and called my brother and he said your attending the wedding. It’s fine. I called the police and he was arrested. And charged with assault word got around in a couple days and his fiancé dumped him. My dad called me slurs and all sorts of thing’s saying how I ruined his life over hair. AITA?”
Redditors told him that he didn’t overreact and that his brother deserved to be charged for assault.
In an update to the post, u/Immediate-Shape-6968 said, “wow this blew up a lot of you guys are saying Nta but my family says otherwise I’ve been shunned by mostly everyone except my grandma and mom. And btw if you think I made this up I really don’t have the time to lie and post a fake story for people to see. I really struggled with self image and hair loss for years without anyone knowing what I was going through and losing my hair again triggered past trauma.”