Love from a parent shouldn’t be conditional, which is exactly what this Redditor did after showering her daughter with gifts and expecting perfection in return.
u/Agitated_Secret_5917, who has since deleted her account and post, wrote, “My daughter (20) just bought her first home with her boyfriend and is very eager to make it perfect and completely renovate as quickly as possible.”
OP and her husband went all-out with buying them large TVs, painting kitchen cabinets, paying for appliance installation, and more.
“That same day, I took her to a furniture store and placed an order for a $1,000 couch, which was supposed to be delivered tomorrow. While we were furniture shopping she asked me what I was doing for Mother’s Day (I have two very young children (4 years & 8 months)) and am now married – I was very young when I had her and was never married to her father). I told her ‘nothing’ and that was the end of the conversation. As a side note, that’s exactly what we did – no elaborate plan or anything! I stayed home with my little ones and my husband, we ordered takeout and had it delivered and enjoyed the day together as a family.”
Then the entitlement comes into play. “On Mother’s Day, I didn’t get a ‘Happy Mother’s Day’ text until 11:25 a.m. In that text she said she ‘had a little something for me’ and would drop it off later. About two hours later she texted me and said ‘we’ll be there in 15 minutes.’ When she arrived, she told me that her boyfriend had recently cleaned out the car and apparently took the gift out of the car and she didn’t realize until they pulled into the driveway. She also mentioned that they were just on their way home from picking up a friend from the airport. So, the friend, and her boyfriend were waiting in the car. My house is between the airport and her house so it is clear that I was just a ‘stop’ along the way. Anyway, while she was there, she used the bathroom, chit chatted for less than five minutes and left.”
u/Agitated_Secret_5917 claimed that, after telling her daughter there were no Mother’s Day plans, she was upset her adult daughter didn’t…make plans? And then claimed her daughter lied about the gift because the car was too new to need to be cleaned.
“I’m extremely taken aback by the fact that my husband and I have gifted her and her boyfriend those TV’s, painted their kitchen cabinets, paid for their appliance installation, and ended up spending $1,250 after tax and delivery for a couch,” she said. “After explaining all of this to her, all she is is defensive and blames me for telling her that we weren’t doing anything. Completely ignores all my other disappointments.”
“Well, I went ahead and cancelled the couch order and will get my $1,250 back. AITA?”
Redditors told the entitled mother that she was unequivocally TA.