Jamie Johnson is a blogger who writes about motherhood and often details her experience raising two young children while working a 9-5 job. She’s open about the things that fall between the cracks—her relationship with her husband, her own wellness—when she’s overburdened and exhausted.
She explains that she feels lots of mom guilt, too—along with an urge to berate herself for not scheduling ahead or being organized enough. And honestly? It’s all too real. Being a parent is a full-time job in itself, and anyone with a heart can see that it takes so much work to hold everything together without feeling less-than.
Here’s the sort of relatable mom content Johnson posts:
Lately, I’ve been stressing myself out because I work full time and have two young kids and a husband and also need to...Posted by Hashtag MomFail by Jamie Johnson on Tuesday, September 24, 2019
Over at her blog Hashtag Mom Fail, her article Mom Guilt: From One Working Mom To Another got some serious attention when it was re-shared by the popular blog, Love What Matters.
In the blog post, Johnson writes emotionally and opening of how impossible it can feel to balance work and motherhood:
"I know I’m missing this meeting, but my kid’s preschool graduation is more important. I know I was late today, but I...Posted by Love What Matters on Thursday, January 30, 2020
Johnson starts her post by explaining that if it seems as though her priority if her kids, not her job—that’s because it is.
“Please stop judging me for leaving the office at exactly 5 p.m., but my kids are waiting to be picked up from the sitter.
I know I’m missing this meeting, but my kid’s preschool graduation is more important.
I know I was late today, but I can’t drop the baby off at daycare until 7:45 a.m.
I know I seem distracted, because I am distracted. I have a sick toddler and I am waiting to find out when I can get him into the pediatrician.
I don’t want to look exhausted when I show up to the office, but I have been awake since 4:30 a.m. with an inconsolable kid.
I know my eyes look glazed over, but I spent the last 12 hours trying to soothe a baby to sleep.
She goes on to detail how motherhood can sometimes make her seem “snippy” and disorganized, and that “as a mom to two small kids” it’s difficult to “leave my personal life at the door.”
I didn’t mean for my email to seem snippy, but I have a 5-year old who cried this morning because he didn’t want to go to school, and I am worried about him.
Yes, I just banged my head against my desk. I received a text message that my kid has pink eye and I have to leave to get him even though this report is almost due.
I know my eyes are very swollen right now. I spent last night crying because I am exhausted, never get to be alone and haven’t taken a hot shower in five years.
Sorry that I was short with you, but I spent the last hour arguing with a toddler over the necessity of wearing pants to the babysitter.
I know I am supposed to leave my personal life at the door when I come to the office, but when you are a mom to two small kids, that is hard to do.
She also thanks everyone in her life who has understood her hectic schedule, and thrown her a bone when she needed it the most:
So thank you to everyone who has given me grace over the last five years. I could probably stand to give myself a little.
Being a full-time working mom with young kids is not easy.
Thank you to every boss who has let me leave for doctor’s appointments, unexpected sicknesses, preschool graduations and school lunches.
Thank you to all the people who turned their heads when I was pregnant and had to run out of a meeting to go puke.
Thank you to everyone who has let me know they also had a hard time juggling their work/life/kid balance.
Thank you to the people who ignored my swollen eyes, exhausted face, and the spit-up on my blouse.
Thank you to all the other moms who slay it each and every day and motivate me to keep going.
Thank you to the people who encourage me to keep going even though I can feel defeated at times.
Thank you to all the co-workers who have picked up slack for me because I had to make a quick exit to solve a kid emergency.
And offers her understanding and sympathy to other working moms…
I know I am not the only working mom in the world, but I am a working mom and I totally understand what you are going through.
I understand you feel like you need to overcompensate because you get to work just on time and leave the minute the clock strikes 5.
I understand when you eat your lunch at your desk because you have to leave early to get a kid from the sitter to the doctor then back to the sitter and then get yourself back to the office in time for your 2 p.m. meeting.
I understand sometimes you show up to work looking like you were attacked by a flock of geese because the kids couldn’t find their shoes, you gave someone the wrong color bowl and then forgot to take Sleepy Bear to the babysitter.
I understand you are tired. Exhausted, probably.
Before expressing this lovely sentiment: Moms “don’t have to choose between two worlds.”
But I also understand you are capable and worthy of so much more than you realize sometimes.
You don’t have to choose between two worlds that you love. You can have them both. You can have a family and a career. It’s not easy, but it is possible.
Yes, the worlds might collide sometimes and make life much more complicated, but it’s worth it.
So don’t stop. Don’t give up. You’ve got this.
And P.S. – Not everyone is going to understand. And that’s OK.
Until Next Time,
Needless to say, there were plenty of comments, but they were definitely mixed. Some people understood Johnson’s words and sent her support and love:
Some people were like, “get out of the office the second you can.”
And there were some messages of support, especially around how human beings, in general, can better support their coworkers (and fellow humans):
Of course, there were some people who took issue with the post, ranging from “moms aren’t the only ones with a problem” to “stop whining.”