There is nothing wrong with having aspirations at all different levels in life — from being the CEO of a company, or a doctor, owning a cafe, or even being a stay-at-home mom. One guy stuck in the online dating scene was judgmental of one of his matches after she told him her goal in life was to be a childfree housewife.
“AITA for laughing at a childfree woman wanting to be a housewife?” u/Celt1CStorm asked. “I’ve been online dating for quite a while. My profile very clearly states, ‘I’m dating with marriage as the end goal’.”
“I matched a few weeks ago with a charming woman who said she also was dating with the intent to get married, with the caveat of wanting a traditional relationship where she would be a housewife.”
“I agree that I would be happy with that arrangement, in the future. We chat about a variety of subjects and set up a date for an early dinner two weeks out (today),” he went on. “Much to my surprise, during the date, she casually mentions she doesn’t want children. In my confusion, I ask her, ‘but you said you were looking to become a housewife’” She responds, ‘you can be a housewife and still not want children’.”
“Admittedly, I did chuckle, but it wasn’t a full belly roar of a laugh, just a chuckle. She took great offense to my laugh and asks, ‘why can’t she be childfree and a housewife’. My response was, ‘what will you be doing all day?’ She says, ‘what do older housewives do after their children go off on their own’ my response was, ‘usually back to work’.”
“I told her it’s going to be next to impossible to find a man willing to take that deal. She gets angry and leaves. I tell my sister and she thinks I ‘crushed that poor woman’s dreams’”
“Am I the asshole, for telling her the truth?” he asked Reddit.
Redditors told him he was definitely TA and he shouldn’t have judged her so harshly for her aspirations just because they don’t align with what he deems the norm.