A man named Travis D. Hughes who says he’s a real estate lawyer posted a little story about himself and his wife on Twitter, probably expecting a few likes from friends and followers, maybe a few encouraging replies. Instead, he has been dragged to absolute hell. You can decide for yourself if he deserves it.
Hughes wrote, “My wife, who is almost 7 mos. pregnant, wasn’t in the mood to work out this morning. So, rather than lecture to her, resent her, or whine about it, I threw on the exercise video and did it with her. Our kids saw us and joined in. No one talks about this part of marriage/dating.”
There’s a lot to unpack here.
Some pregnant women are encouraged to exercise by their doctors, even late in their pregnancy. Having a partner who helps and encourages you to do so is probably welcome, even if you’re feeling cranky and like going to bed instead. Where Hughes kinda lost me (and most of the Internet) is when he characterized his motivational technique as good because he didn’t “lecture to her, resent her, or whine about it.”
Sir, why on earth would you do any of those things? Resent your pregnant wife for not wanting to work out? Whine about it? Are you the child, actually?
That’s basically what everyone asked, but it was hard to get a super clear answer on what Hughes would exactly be resentful about. The implication seemed to be that couples talk sh*t about their partner behind their backs for getting out of shape. Even when pregnant, I guess!
Why in the name of christ would anyone resent their 7 month pregnant wife's lack of desire to work out? Why would they put the exercise video on anyway and guilt them into exercising, and most of all why would they admit all this publicly? https://t.co/1O6Ve4lZ1d
— Andrew Galvin (@MaxHomo) May 3, 2020
all this and on top of that, he wants a pat on the back! the narcissism..
— SisNotCis ???? ???? (@sis_not_cis) May 3, 2020
Hughes tried to explain himself further, but it still seemed like he was saying he was proud of himself for helping his wife exercise instead of cheating on her for gaining weight, or something:
His explanations haven’t helped, and he’s still getting widely mocked:
Travis don’t read this
Travis’s wife here are some of the best divorce attorneys in Atlanta. I’d start putting away some money now and changing your passwords.https://t.co/hN2wBONIgn https://t.co/3VqeaxGZ44
— David Slavick (@davidslavick) May 4, 2020
People get on here and show their whole asses every day. pic.twitter.com/pSobZqTJLn
— Akilah Green (@akilahgreen) May 3, 2020
i hope the baby isn’t his https://t.co/qiUMpTiivp
— Brandy Jensen (@BrandyLJensen) May 3, 2020
When I was 7 months pregnant and didn't want to exercise, my husband left me the fuck alone. And that's why we had more children and are still married. https://t.co/BewLUoGoy5
— Alexa Martin (@AlexaMBooks) May 3, 2020
This is how you get called every name in the book in the delivery room. You could have just rubbed her back & kept this to yourself. https://t.co/g4l69JoV9t
— ❄Mikki Kendall❄ (@Karnythia) May 3, 2020
On big God, you could have just made her breakfast and put her feet up instead.
Resenting, lecturing or whining to a heavily pregnant woman? The misogyny. ???? https://t.co/uMEi90ZWAC
— mwen pa sòt online (@aChildOf2Worlds) May 4, 2020
My girlfriend, who is my favourite person, wasn't in the mood to work out this morning. So I let her do her thing, and I reminded her how much I love her.
Fixed that for you. ????????????
Being in a relationship isn't a chore. You arent her saviour, let her be the queen she is. ???? https://t.co/jJ8R79A3Sr
— Jakey Boi ???? (@JakeyBoiArts) May 4, 2020
All the shalaye that followed after this tweet wouldn't have been necessary if you didnt have the initial urge to signal https://t.co/ic9oI6KWJz
— Hyke ☺ #FanOfFisayoSoyombo (@ekesunvictor) May 4, 2020
No one talks about the part of marriage/dating where you don't lecture or resent your 7-month pregnant wife because she didn't want to exercise one day?
— MB Fawcett (@maxfawcett) May 3, 2020
I hope Mrs. Hughes is getting her feet rubbed tonight. We’ll probably hear about it on Twitter tomorrow if so.