Mother-Of-Four Pens Post About Not Letting Husband See Her Naked For 6 Years

In an Instagram post, one 31-year-old mother and mommy influencer, Jessica Hood, shares a vulnerable story of how she fears showing her husband how she looks naked. In fact, she hasn’t — for six whole years. Hood says that they only have sex in the dark and that he’s not allowed to touch her stomach. And this has all happened after giving birth to kids.

She writes, “From the moment my firstborn arrived my body has been covered in front of my husband. I’m confident but not with my husband.”

 

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Her sad reasoning? She fears her husband will “run away” or be “disgusted” and “turned off.” Of course, Hood realizes that this is probably not true and that these ideas are affecting the marriage as much as they affect her:

“I know it hurts him and although I feel like I’m accepting my body more and more every day, I’m afraid he won’t accept it….….He tells me all the time he doesn’t care but what if it’s different when he actually sees me? All of me? My saggy tummy, my stretch marks, my cellulite, my rolls. I’m not the girl I was when we first met.”

She admits that they have sex with their clothes on, and she doesn’t get dressed in front of him.

“We only have sex in the dark, if it’s during the day my clothes are on. We never shower together. I never get dressed in front of him. I won’t even swim in front of him. I even won’t let him see the images of me on Instagram. It’s more than just sexual; it’s everyday life. It hurts me that I feel this way.”

 

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She says that she knows this is an all-too-common story with women everywhere, sadly.

“I know this feeling is too common. As a woman. As a mother. As we age. As gravity takes over. As the wrinkle begin to cover our skin. As the relationship settles in and the honeymoon fades.”

But Hood isn’t content with this set-up; in fact, she wants to be able to let him see her and embrace her exactly as she is: “But I don’t want to feel this way forever. He deserves me. All of me,’ she said. ‘Just give me time. One day you will get all of me.”

Commenters immediately related to her perspective and shared their love and support in the comments. Many thanked her for her honesty and openness:

“Thank you for putting into words what so many of us feel yet struggle to say.” — @princessandpeaau 

“I found you through the daily mail. I think your story is so important to share and I deeply respect you for being so open and vulnerable. You have helped so many women with posting this.” — @letmetrybeforeyoubuy

Many others said that men just don’t care, regardless — which is probably something many husbands and boyfriends would agree on:

“I’ll tell you something for free which is the god honest truth.. they don’t care if we have a hairy vagina, saggy boobs, hairy pits, got your period or anything in between!! They just want to love us (warts and all) I literally couldn’t turn my husband off if I tried 🤣 and I love him for that.” — @j.m.b22_

“Jessica, I hear you.. after my twin birth it was about 3 years until I actually let my husband ‘see me’ (but not all at once) and made all the excuses too. Thank goodness he was very loving, patient and supportive of me.. I hope one day you will be able to have the confidence to let him see you again too! lots of love to you.” —@dalima26 

“You are only saying what a lot of women believe, that they won’t like what they see, but in reality, it will bring you closer together. He loves you for you as you do him — otherwise, he wouldn’t be with you. One day you will get the courage and you will be surprised by the reaction you get. Hang in there and keep loving what you see and you will eventually peel away the layers and will realize how much time you have worried over nothing.” —@colleenteresa

“Oh, hun. I’m sorry you feel this way. He loves you and I know that he loves every inch of you, all the inches that you don’t think he ever will. You have a good man there. I hope one day you feel differently.” —@mumma.miles

Others talked about their own experiences in body acceptance and body confidence in marriage:

“I was the same… But 15 years later I know I am never going to look like I did in my twenties so I have accepted my body for what it is.” —@jaffash78

“I am like this too with my husband and it hurts him also. I don’t think I’ve worn a skirt or shorts (without black tights, if anything) since year 8 or 9. I got very self-conscious at a young age about veins in my thighs and it’s carried on and 4 kids later cellulite is the next thing to add on to it. I’m a size 8 but trust me — doesn’t make any difference when kids, gravity, age, not an exerciser take a hold.” —@jcradford83 

“This is me the only difference is i also won’t let myself see me naked i don’t ever look at myself in the mirror EVER. My body just makes me sick. It’s so terrible to feel this way. I have tried so hard to accept but I just can’t. Where did I go?” — @holycowitswow

Others had some helpful recommendations:

“Oh my goodness, I hope you are able to overcome this! We only have 1 body and 1 life. You might find it helpful to check out: @januaryharshe and @bodyposipanda for starters.” —@cherry_bitters