The internet is resoundingly grossed out today after rapper and actor T.I., real name Clifford Joseph Harris Jr., announced to the entire world that he takes his teenage daughter to the gynecologist every year for a “hymen check” in order to determine whether she is still a virgin. Whether or not you are still unfortunately unaware that the entire idea of the hymen breaking during the first instance of sexual intercourse is a myth, this is still all-around incredibly messed up.
This is SO incredibly disturbing. T.I. apparently goes to the OB/GYN with his 18-year old daughter to “check her hymen.” 🤢— NARAL (@NARAL) November 6, 2019
“Virginity” is NOT a medical status—and this is coercive. https://t.co/hfIQhMgNjP
“This is the thing. Deyjah’s 18, just graduated high school now and she’s attending her first year of college, figuring it out for herself,” T.I. said on the “Ladies Like Us” podcast. “And yes, not only have we had the [sex] conversation, we have yearly trips to the gynecologist to check her hymen.”
First of all, no father should be this focused on his own daughter’s vagina. Secondly, this is controlling behavior based on the sexist idea that women and girls are somehow broken or made dirty the moment they have sex. Thirdly, who is the gynecologist going along with this disgusting charade?
A reminder on the necessity of sex educators: T.I. demanding proof of her virginity by forcing “hymen checks” is misogynistic garbage AND a reflection of exactly what so many folks think about sexual liberation + freedom— cameron • she/her (@BlkGirlManifest) November 6, 2019
According to medical experts, the idea that examining the hymen to determine whether someone is still a virgin is unreliable at best due to the fact that every hymen is different. Some girls are born without any semblance of a hymen at all. Furthermore, the hymen isn’t “broken” during the first time someone with one has sex. It may be slightly torn, but this is very often due to a lack of lubrication as a result of inexperience and nervousness. It then mends itself just like any other part of the body. It can also be torn by other activities, including menstruation, bathing, or exercise.
Notice how T.I. said “*my* results” and “*the* hymen”. He completely removed his daughter from the conversation and made it about him, as if it were HIS body. pic.twitter.com/ITs8TghQgW
— Girls United (@EssenceGU) November 6, 2019
But the rapper can’t even claim ignorance on this issue. During the interview, T.I. went into some detail about these yearly visits, claiming that he gets consent from Deyjah and then brushes off the doctor’s warnings about how the entire hymen thing is bull.
“And so then [the doctor] come and say, ‘Well I just want you to know that there are other ways besides sex that the hymen can be broken like bike-riding, athletics, horseback riding and just other forms of athletic physical activity,'” he said. “So I say, ‘Look doc, she don’t ride no horses, she don’t ride no bike, she don’t play no sports. Man, just check the hymen please and give me back my results expeditiously.'”
T.I. then proudly declared that he took his now-adult daughter in again after her 18th birthday, and: “Her hymen is still intact.” Absolutely no one needed to know that, Clifford.
While there probably is someone out there defending T.I. on this, we haven’t seen it yet.
This is absolutely disgusting and perverted and vile and ignorant and just plain wrong. TI is a sick, controlling narcissist and there is absolutely NO way Deyjah, her mother or any woman in TI’s life should be okay with this. https://t.co/tDjVdAoSom— Candice Marie Benbow (@CandiceBenbow) November 6, 2019
this just derailed my whole day because of how disgusting and enraging and humiliating and abusive it is— anna borges 🌸🍃 (@annabroges) November 6, 2019
T.I. Said He Goes To The Gynecologist With His Daughter Every Year To "Check Her Hymen"https://t.co/aVIcId4hsV pic.twitter.com/pQMJsbFobC
This is VILE— Ryan M. (@RyanGeeksOut) November 6, 2019
1. She's 18 and a legal adult
2. There are loads of ways to break a hymen, and often girls don't even know they've broken it.
3. Why is it ok for a girl's father to be this invested in her vagina? Because it sounds creepy AF to me. (1/4)https://t.co/ec9iV37YAp
It's so rare that I can still feel pure rage over a story but.....!!!!!! https://t.co/AmC1BEuesw— Amber Jamieson (@ambiej) November 6, 2019
If you're defending T.I.'s atrocious practice of having his 18-year-old daughter's hymen checked, and the gynecologist violating HIPPA to accomodate T.I.'s creepy request, then you're a disgusting misogynist, too.— Sergio (@siano4progress) November 6, 2019
Women are not your property. Not even your daughter.
T.I doesn’t go around getting his sons checked....but you can leave a sticky note on your daughters door that says “hymen check at 9am” how utterly disgusting..........when you have a father who deep down hates women....this is what you get.— Kelsei LeAnn, PsyD ✨ (@drkelseileann) November 6, 2019
T.I, a man who publicly & infamously cheated on his wife on a regular basis with no respect for his family while being accessible community dick, made himself the protector of his daughter’s hymen?! Wont let her fuckin ride a bike to keep it intact? This man is a sick psychopath. pic.twitter.com/TZ2sjwxbPZ— farxiyo (@hausofriya) November 6, 2019
T.I. is an abusive misogynist. He demands his daughter's gynecologist disclose the results of an annual "hymen check" to him so he can ensure she's still a virgin. When it comes to his wife, "that little sex box you got is half mine." This isn't over-protective. It's abusive. https://t.co/Muv8mLCrp8— Jill Filipovic (@JillFilipovic) November 6, 2019
DISGUSTING: T.I. (@TIP) goes to his daughter Deyjah’s gynecologist yearly to make sure her hymen is still intact. He said the results are his. Gross!— Jerome Trammel (@MrJeromeTrammel) November 6, 2019
1. It’s toxic, creepy & possessive.
2. His younger son admits he’s having sex & it wasn’t a problem.
3. She’s 18! Stop him now! pic.twitter.com/D6ILR6Bhiv
It’s too late to call child protective services, right?