Siera Bearchell is a popular TikTok and Instagram influencer and a mom to boot. She has almost 200,000 followers on TikTok, and they come to her for all sorts of entertainment. But her most recent viral TikTok is about gender, or what she’s noticed about gender from having a baby girl.
The truth is, boys and girls at a certain age all kind of look the same, which is why people get so weird about how they’re dressed. They even put them in pink and blue when they’re fresh out of the oven and barely sentient.
Bearchell dresses her daughter, Lily, up in pretty pink outfits and dresses, but sometimes she puts her in neutral colors or even outfits some might perceive as more “masculine,” like the Lion King PJs her girl is wearing in the TikTok. Bearchell noticed that this will make people think Lily is a boy, and they relate to her completely differently.
“Naturally people always think she’s a boy when she’s wearing something like that.”
“Or when she’s wearing neutral colors. Basically when she’s not wearing pink or a dress.”
“I realized people talk to her completely differently when they think she’s a girl versus when they think she’s a boy.”
“When they think she’s a girl they comment on how pretty she is, her dress…”
“When they think she’s a boy, they will say things like ‘Wow, you’re so fast! You’re so strong! Look at you go!'”
“This has been happening since she was a baby.”
“As girls, the most important thing about them and the most important things that people notice is how they look and dress.”
“As boys, the most important thing about them is their actions and what they do.”
“I do believe we need to comment more on the strength and actions of little girls.”
“Because they need to know they’re more than pretty.”
Here’s the whole thing:
It would be cool if we didn’t put gendered expectations on anyone ever, but that might be too much to dream for at the moment.