Some people don’t show their true colors until marriage or babies are involved. Redditor u//Open_Breadfruit_5391 made this nasty discovery when she and her husband found out that their triplets were all girls and he turned violent. She asked, “AITA For Wanting To Divorce My Husband Because He Wants A Son?”
“I(27,F) have been with my husband (29,M) for five years, married for three of those years. Our marriage was perfect and we were so happy. It felt like our entire life was perfect. Church on Sunday, loving husband, beautiful home, all of it. A few months into our marriage I became pregnant and my husband and I were overjoyed and so was the rest of our family. My husband was especially happy after finding out our baby was a boy as he’d always told me he wanted at least one son.”
Unfortunately, their son was a stillborn, and it took a long time for them to get over his death.
When they found out she was pregnant again with three babies, they threw a baby shower, with her brother and BIL in charge of the gender reveal. Everything went wonderfully until the confetti cannons all shot out pink confetti.
“I was so excited and so was my brother but my husband screamed at the top of his lungs and hit the table in front of us, hitting it so hard that it actually broke. He screamed at me that I was supposed to give him at least one son because I killed his first one.”
“That’s when I burst into tears. I had been so broken up about our son’s stillbirth and a part of me had felt it was my fault, and now he my husband was, the love of my life, telling me that it was. My brother immediately stepped in and tried to get my husband to calm down but my husband shoved my brother, so my brother instead pulled me inside where I cried in the living room while my husband’s mother tried to calm him down. I could hear him screaming outside about how three daughters is too many, how he doesn’t want four kids but he also wants a son,” she wrote.
u/Open_Breadfruit_5391’s husband has been horrible to her ever since, and even “spat at me and told me he will provide them shelter and food but he isn’t interested in daughters and doesn’t plan to have a close relationship with them.”
She said that this concluded her decision to want a divorce, though her mother and MIL seem to think that his anger was “natural” and treated her like “a silly little girl.”
“I’m torn on what to do because I worry divorce will be too brash of a decision and that maybe my mother and MIL are right. AITA? What should I do?” she asked.
Redditors told her she had every right to leave her husband, who was clearly abusive even if he didn’t show signs of it before.
In an update to her post, u/Open_Breadfruit_5391 said she had moved into her brother’s house and he and his husband promised to help raise her daughters. One can only hope that things end well for her and her little girls.