Over at a heated thread on the AITA subreddit—Am I The A**hole?—a frustrated new mom of infant twins reveals the burdens of being a parent when one parent (in this case, a dad) camps out in the bathroom to avoid taking care of the kids.
Being a parent to not one but two tiny screaming, hungry, pooping humans is super tiring and thankless work, but you have to be accountable to your kids and your partner. What does it do to your partner (and your family) when you’re the jerk huddled in the bathroom reading and having a chill while your wife is going it alone?
This wife admitted that she turns off the WiFi while her husband’s in the crapper (for a whole 25 whole minutes, several times a week!)—a move that seems harsh but is getting Reddit’s total support.
“Anytime my husband SHOULD be doing something with the children (it’s his turn for a diaper, a bottle, even just soothing a fussy newborn) he ALWAYS goes to the bathroom first,” she writes. Yikes.
AITA for turning off the wifi when my husband camps in the bathroom for extended lengths of time. from AmItheAsshole
If you are thinking, “what the actual f*ck,” you are not alone.
Skipping out on baby duties, watching YouTube for 25 minutes while your wife handles your kids, and playing video games for up to eight hours per day is not normal, and it’s not okay.
So, here’s what Reddit says about this lazy dumper:
The response was basically entirely in support of the woman, saying her husband is the jerk, not her.
One person suggested that the bathroom/WiFi issue isn’t even the real problem. The real problem is something even bigger.
Apparently, this is an issue many women know all too well — which demands the question: Men, why aren’t you doing your duty?
Even dads stepped in to share their thoughts, and many were also very much on the mother’s side, suggesting that the mother leave the house so that the husband has no choice but to step up.
Some folks brought up the idea of parental leave—and how it’s a privilege that not many people even get:
But more so, the issue is speaking to a larger social problem:
Hey dads—if you see your wife struggling, step up!