A viral tweet about a visual grocery list has sparked a debate about whether it’s cute or pathetic when men struggle to do basic tasks.
he struggles so much with grocery shopping, so pictures have to accompany the list or it’ll just be a mess.— rara (@Rato_K) July 13, 2019
cutest thing ???????? pic.twitter.com/jq4asuUYYV
In the tweet, alongside a video of a specially-made visual shopping list made for her partner, user @Rato_K writes, “he struggles so much with grocery shopping, so pictures have to accompany the list or it’ll just be a mess. cutest thing.”
The shopping list is pretty detailed. This woman lays it all out there—the type of pasta, the kinds of tomatoes, the color of the pepper—she even tells him where to find items in a follow-up tweet.
When they talk about women’s unseen labor, this is what they’re referring to—a carefully curated and illustrated list for a man who is unable to figure out what linguini looks like even though it’s in a box labeled “linguini.”
Some people seemed to agree that this was, in fact, a cute and relatable thing:
— Kay (@KayNgonyama) July 13, 2019
I understand this all too well. I sometimes have to do this with hubby.
— Lungelo Khanyile (@Lungelomavuso) July 13, 2019
But the tweet sparked a debate over whether or not men who can’t do simple tasks are cute or incompetent man-babies, but mostly, people were not amused by the idea of a grown-ass man unable or unwilling to run basic errands.
How are these kinds of men even surviving in the real world? pic.twitter.com/PhRNeYa9Jt
— Lolanzapine (@LolaRxstar) July 14, 2019
there’s nothing cute here, he can’t even do the bare minimum & you’re his surrogate mother. pic.twitter.com/RayVoXDCCW
— Rebecca Robinson (@msbecrobinson) July 15, 2019
I’m trying for figure out what’s cute about having to walk a man through simple adult tasks?!
— ????????♀️???? (@G14_Classified_) July 14, 2019
Some users were confused whether this woman had sent her child or her partner to the grocery store.
Aww, how adorable that your first grader goes grocery shopping for you!
Very responsible for a six year-old child.
— Chicago Sensual Massage (@chicago_sunrise) July 15, 2019
One woman shared her abysmal experience with sending men out for groceries:
I was making breakfast once and I sent my husband to go buy mushrooms, he came back with marshmallows ????????♀️
— Andi (@Becos_I_can) July 13, 2019
Other users observed that people make running errands needlessly complicated so they are never asked to do them again:
Someone once said to me that guys purposely get orders wrong so you don’t send them again… I’m starting to believe it
— Yellow is my favorite color (@Pabie_OhSoSweet) July 14, 2019
He’s making this as difficult as possible so you don’t ask him to do it again , nothing cute about this
— Mood: mookie picking up his last paycheck (@ROakleyy) July 14, 2019
To be fair, some individuals who struggle with learning disabilities often need visual cues to help them complete tasks.
All of you out here laughing when the man has a learning disability.
— Koshiek Karan (@iamkoshiek) July 14, 2019
In that case, this list is a lovingly supportive way to help a partner with a disability, and we should all feel bad for poking fun at it.