A Twitter user, who is concerned that people online are saying they can’t stand the thought of being alone with their partners for a long time while self-quarantining, is using the platform to give some helpful tips to help couples weather the storm. @KiKiDoodleTweet wants everyone to know that working from home with a partner isn’t all gloom and doom and can actually be pretty enjoyable, given there are some basic rules put in place.
“As a person who’s worked from home with their partner for 6+ years the WEIRDEST take I’m seeing right now is “I love my spouse but hahaa I cant stand spending time with them during a quarantine lol ya get me?” And all the replies agreeing,” user @KiKiDoodleTweet wrote.
As a person who's worked from home with their partner for 6+ years the WEIRDEST take I'm seeing right now is "I love my spouse but hahaa I cant stand spending time with them during a quarantine lol ya get me?" And all the replies agreeing— Kikidoodle & Purrmaids @ home (@KikiDoodleTweet) March 15, 2020
The user went on to explain that being in constant close quarters with a partner doesn’t have to be horrible if folks are in a healthy relationship and proper boundaries are set.
If spending time with your partner that is:— Kikidoodle & Purrmaids @ home (@KikiDoodleTweet) March 15, 2020
Not an active adventure,
Not meant to be romantic,
Not actively interesting,
Just hanging out together indoors,
Drives you nuts, I recommend you take the quarantine to take a real look at your relationship and how well you know them.
@KiKiTwitterDoodleTweet even made a book recommendation for couples who want to use their time productively.
“This book and all in the series were Nik and I’s favorite book series while dating. We’d ask every question in it to try and really learn how we tick. It was an adventure getting to know them. A recommendation for those stuck indoors,” the user wrote.
https://t.co/S2RKt0ctJR— Kikidoodle & Purrmaids @ home (@KikiDoodleTweet) March 15, 2020
This book and all in the series were Nik and I's favorite book series while dating. We'd ask every question in it to try and really learn how we tick. It was an adventure getting to know them.
A recommendation for those stuck indoors. 👍
The Twitter user also urged couples to communicate openly about their needs and set and respect each other’s boundaries—especially the need for space.
You can and SHOULD practice communicating when you need alone time even if the person is there. You can communicate what your partner should do to refuse tension and you should ask what you can do.— Kikidoodle & Purrmaids @ home (@KikiDoodleTweet) March 15, 2020
People forget you CAN spend and enjoy time alone while together.
I'll hold firm that if you only can relax and be yourself when your partner is physically not able to interact due to distance there are communication issues.— Kikidoodle & Purrmaids @ home (@KikiDoodleTweet) March 15, 2020
No one is perfect, but it's a real weird take to laugh it off as a ball and chain joke rather than work on it.
According to the user and expert at work-from-home relationships, one of the biggest things to remember is to simply “knock first”! Some other important tips shared include texting a partner who is working from home instead of interrupting their workflow and also using whiteboards on doors to communicate if you are available, unavailable or simply need alone time.
Some tips for being alone while together:— Kikidoodle & Purrmaids @ home (@KikiDoodleTweet) March 15, 2020
We use a notepad/whiteboard on our doors to note if we cannot be disturbed.
We text each other cute NON important thoughts and tasks rather than interrupt if one of us is wotking/enjoying alone time.
Closed door = knock first.
She also mentions that “if a discussion topic isn’t liked, we ask for it to be postponed to later,” and notes that working out a chore system was massively helpful to maintain mental health for both parties.
"Is that a chore you need done immidiately or can I add it to a to do list?" "Not important. I can do it!" We realized my pointing out messes stressed out nik so we worked out a system we both worked agreed worked for our mental health.— Kikidoodle & Purrmaids @ home (@KikiDoodleTweet) March 15, 2020
OP then turned to Twitter to ask folks if they had any of their own tips for working from home alongside their partners.
I DO want to address that if its HARD to suddenly spend so much time together that that's normal. The weird to me is more the insistence the distance alone is what makes the relationship work.— Kikidoodle & Purrmaids @ home (@KikiDoodleTweet) March 15, 2020
It's important to work out how to get along in the next couple months. 💕
We “go to our rooms” meaning we each put in our noise canceling earbuds and be inward with ourselves for awhile. Earbuds in, no talky. Having married someone with the same recharging needs as myself means there’s no hard feelings when we need to “check out”— Thornwolf | Nicole Dornsife (@ThornwolfArt) March 15, 2020
Remembering that you and your partner(/s) are a team, when we have tension or a problem we imagin that we are next to each other and the problem is in front of us, not between. Our partnership means we are invested in each others success and happiness.— March comes in like a Sixel (@Sixelsixel) March 15, 2020
Don’t be afraid to walk away. If you’re not used to being around someone everyday, day in, day out, you’re gonna get on each other’s nerves. Walk away before it turns into a fight. Don’t be ashamed to be the one who backs down first.— MonkeyMinion involuntarily at home (@monkeyminion) March 15, 2020
Others responded to the thread by agreeing how bizarre it is to not be able to “stand spending time” with a spouse during a quarantine.
what’s weirder is, y’all can both be home but don’t have to spend all your time together doing activities. sometimes it’s nice to just have them around the house, make some occasional conversation, eat a meal together, etc. their presence should not bother you lmao— honey referendum (@googiehouser) March 16, 2020
I told an old co-worker about my relationship and how he's my best friend and such and she looked at me like I was crazy and said just wait a few years. Almost three years together and he's stayed by my side through a very difficult time in my life.— SunFlour_Vixen🌻🍪🦊 (@sunflour_vixen) March 15, 2020
People's insistence on marrying people they seemingly don't like is BAFFLING to me.— Hastings (@OdicHastings) March 15, 2020
This. I don’t understand at all. Why would you date or marry someone you can’t stand being around?— Enoch. (@0ddoblivion) March 15, 2020
If my wife is gone for any amount of time, even a couple hours I miss her and can’t wait for her to come back.
And remember: if you need another door in your home, buy one on Amazon. While you still can.
For those without doors: https://t.co/34J1FW0say— Kikidoodle & Purrmaids @ home (@KikiDoodleTweet) March 17, 2020
When I worked from home in a 6 person household with no privacy I made myself a work corner in the living room.
Privacy wall pulled tight meant "do not disturb" I'd leave a corner open otherwise. 👍 pic.twitter.com/GcEasEL6qo